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How to be more outgoing : Find people of similar interest


Would you like to be more outgoing. Have a better social life and make friends easier? The first then you must do it to get out their by yourself and find people of similar interest to you.

Once you have built up some confidence to go out by yourself (joining clubs, social events) you can practice talking to strangers (at those events) to find out what they like to do and see if they share a similar interest. If you want people to know you more, you must first connect with them by finding out their hobbies and interest and sharing yours with them.

Once you know what they like to do for fun you can plan an event that is related to their interest and your similar interest.  Because in life, people only care about themselves and their needs so if you want friends make sure to keep that in mind.

Your needs/goal: To be more outgoing and make new friends that share the same interest.

Their needs/goal : To ______. It’s up to you to find out and fill in this blank.

Now you can invite them to go hiking to take photos with you. Or you can invite them to play badminton. And if they like both hiking and basketball you can plan an event and invite a bunch of people to join you in your hiking trip while carrying a basketball with you. Toss it around and look like a fool. But do not worry about how others think you might look like a fool, because you have to get out of your comfort soon and learn through trial and error in order to have fun and be more outgoing. Don’t spend too much time thinking about what other people say about you. Just let loose and have fun.

If your new friends like football. Plan an event at a sports bar and invite them all to come watch football with you. And also bring a football with you to toss around so you can break a few windows… *don’t do that.

Things to keep in mind:

Remember that not everyone shares the same interest. They also might not want to go to your event because they have their own circle of friends. Accept that and move on to the next person. Also don’t be needy or pushy, keep talking to everyone you see and spread positive vibes. Practice makes perfect and it will take time to be more outgoing. Try and dedicate one or two days a week to make time and practice this new skill that you just learned!

And lastly*: Try to get their contact information after you finished talking to them so that you can follow up next time. If you share common interests they will most likely want to follow up with you.






I am a wandering soul! I enjoy traveling and adventure. I am mostly on WP to read stories from other fellow adventurers and improve my writing skills. I read to seek information and learn about life to understand more about human relations. Feel free to follow and comment :).

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