Posted in Life, Life Skills

Words of Wisdom – Don’t wait!

 

Some words of wisdom I’d like to share :

Don’t wait on anyone! If you want to be successful you have to just shoot for the stars and go for it. If you want to get stronger, you should set a goal for yourself by going to the gym everyday and lift more then you did the day before. If you like to eat out at restaurants with friends, feel free to just plan an event and go even if everyone rejects you. If you want to make new friends and meet new people, then attend as many events as possible and don’t reject people that reach out to you. If you want to be a leader, form a club and gather people of similar interests to help you out.

Don’t wait on people!

Most people only care about themselves and they cannot commit to showing up to your events or attending your meetings. Even if they are your close friends they might still bail out on you without saying anything. If you really want to achieve something, plan out your event accordingly and show up to your event even if the people you invited end up making other last minute plans and decide not to go to your event. There are thousands of other people out there that have different backgrounds and experiences that you can meet when you step outside into the world and venture along your own pathway. Don’t be too clingy and just be yourself! Talk to everyone you meet along the way and ask them questions on how they got there and what made them successful. Just do it!

Someone at the gym actually told me this quote to not wait on anyone. I’ve been going to the gym by myself to lift weights in hopes of growing big and strong someday. Thirty more years of weight training and I hope to be as big and strong as him! It’s a lot of dedication but I believe I can take baby steps to achieve this goal. I’m looking forward to improving my confidence and character so that I can be a successful leader and speaker as well.

Posted in Guides, Life, Life Skills, Uncategorized

How to be successful at work

successsI found 7 habits on how to be successful at work and I would like to share them!

  1. Focus on Strengths not weaknesses
    • Find out what your good at and use it to your advantage
  2. Work your best
    • Look for inspiration, shut off outside noises with headphones, working in groups, working alone. Everyone has different ways of working
  3. Attitude
    • Control your attitude and think positively
    • Don’t focus on other life issues or personal challenges when your at work, keep those at home.
  4. Eat healthier
    • Food makes you happy!, Bring some snacks and make sure you eat a good breakfast before you head off to work!
    • Eggs, yogurt, snacks.
  5. Good Deeds
    • Be nice to other people and do something to make them feel appreciated
    • Some examples: Take on simple task, grabbing coffee for them, giving back to your team.
  6. Dwelling
    • Don’t do this
    • Even if you had a bad day, spend 10 minutes thinking about what happened and how it could have been better. Then forget about it and move on!
  7. Reflection
    • Before you leave, review three things that went well that day. It helps you think more positively!

 

 

Source:

  1. Google Image
  2. http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2015/08/17/7-daily-habits-that-can-make-you-more-successful-at-work
Posted in Guides, Life, Life Skills, Summer

How to not be judgemental using the DUAL method

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In this world there are many different types of people. You will encounter people that are rude,mean, disrespectful, kind, evil, and good etc. If you spend some time to understand why they are are like that instead of judging them then it should be easier to treat them as friends.

  1. D: Don’t pass the judgement
    • Notice that your judging someone and stop it!
  2. U: Understand:
    • Put yourself in that person’s shoe so you can understand why they are like that
  3. A: Accept
    • Accept that person for who/she is. Don’t try to fix them.
  4. L : Love
    • Don’t hate but instead love. Show  respect for that person as if he/she is your brother/sister.

Source:

1.http://zenhabits.net/a-simple-method-to-avoid-being-judgmental-yes-that-means-you/

Posted in Uncategorized

Five ways Successful people think

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  1. Big Picture Thinking
    1. Outline the big picture and promote team work to achieve your goals.
  2. Focused thinking
    1. When your thinking, use your focus! Focus on your strength, focus on your short term and long term goals.
  3. Creative Thinking
    1. Think of things that no one else has thought of before. Make it unusual and creative
  4. Realistic Thinking
    1. Think realistically. Make sure the goals are achievable. Examine the worst case scenarios in case something goes wrong.
  5. Strategic Thinking
    1. Plan your thinking, have a  strategy for how you think your plan will go.

Source:

  1. http://www.championshipcoachesnetwork.com/public/417.cfm
  2. Picture from google.
Posted in Exercise, Life, Summer

My experience with a personal trainer

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Greetings to my readers,

These past two months I signed up for gym membership and I also signed up for a personal trainer to help guide me through my exercises. I actually didn’t planned on signing up for the personal training but the sales member somehow persuaded me.

Originally I didn’t want to register for a personal trainer because it was very expensive (About 700-800$ a month for 12 sessions). They kept asking me yes questions and eventually I was convinced to sign up for the training sessions.

Positive things about my personal trainer:

I was able to learn new exercises and how to properly gain muscle mass gradually.

I somewhat learned how to eat more and add a variety of food throughout my day.

 

Negative things about my personal trainer:

I expected my trainer to be very knowledgeable but apparently she lacks expertise and assertive communication.

Instead of giving me advice and wisdom on how to properly carry out exercises and gain mass on my own, she would often ask me some some questions and respond in a negative way.

How are you going to do these exercise by yourself?

How are you going to push yourself to add more weight?

She assumes that I would not go to the gym often as soon as I was done with her training sessions. She believes I will lose all the muscle I gained once I am finished with her training sessions. I apparently have been going to the gym on my own 6 days a week and I find her to be very rude.

Yes questions:

After training with her for a month I noticed that she often asks the yes type of questions to try and get me to sign up for her training sessions again. I believe she just wants money and doesn’t care about the growth of her students.

Some questions that she asked me:

You want to build muscle right?

You want to gain weight right?

If I say yes, I will be forced to sign up for her sessions again. So to respond to her rude questions I had to say no. This women hasn’t given me any guidance or wisdom for me to be confident in training by myself. I think she just wants to keep me there so she can make more money.

Nutritional Guidance:

In addition to the personal training, the trainer also reviewed some nutrition and gave suggestions on what I should eat.

Although the information was very good I apparently find her approach to explaining nutrition and getting me to eat more protein rich food to be very unprofessional.

She would often ask me what I ate throughout the day. When I told her what I ate, she seems to be very defensive and starts telling me to eat more, drink 2-3 protein shakes daily.

She raises her voice and that does not seem professional to me. When I told her I had one egg for breakfast, she told me to eat 12 eggs a day to gain more mass. That was where she lost my trust and I find her to be a not so reputable source of nutrition. Eating too much eggs will lead to high cholesterol and that can kill you.

I think she could use some coaching to improve her people and assertive communication skills. She is very hard to approach and respond to because she always says defensive statements in a rude way. I do not feel comfortable talking to her and I will report her to the manager.

 

What I learned from all this:

I will not sign up for a personal trainer again. You expect to get a lot of progress and goals achieved through the help of a personal trainer but not with someone that always thinks negatively and assumes you will not lift enough weights to achieve your goals. My training session was actually 2 months long, so I had to pay 1400$ for them. That was very foolish of me and I should have said no and walked out of that door.

I have taken martial arts class before and I believe my sensei has given me more wisdom and confidence to be off on my own then this expensive trainer. I will most likely find a martial arts school near me to train with instead of a useless personal trainer.

Some advice I want to give:

Don’t be afraid to say no and run out that door when people try and persuade you with yes questions.

Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself.

Don’t be afraid to seek out guidance from other people.

Don’t be afraid to report things that you see are unjust.

There are better sources of exercise routines and nutritional guidance online, take advantage of those.

 

Other things that might be useful:

I don’t think that all personal trainers are rude like this, this is just my experience with a specific trainer.

Because my trainer was a terrible nutritional guidance, I went online and found alternatives and better suggestions from famous celebrities.

 

The Video below is about Terry Crews workout and what he eats daily.